Single mothers by choice
In love. Married. Mother. A family model that has shaped women for generations — but is no longer obligatory in the 21st century.
Single mothers by choice
Today, fulfilling a woman´s desire to have children does not require a committed partnership, planned solo motherhood is becoming increasingly common.
Singles with the desire to have children
The number of single women who want to have children is growing and the idea of motherhood without a partner is becoming increasingly conceivable for many women. According to a study by the Federal Ministry for Family Affairs, 34% of childless women over the age of 30 can imagine motherhood without a man.
How can sperm donation help singles who want to have children?
Singles who want to have children are dependent on a sperm donation. Theoretically, this can either come from a private donor or from a sperm bank in Germany or abroad.
In comparison to many other countries, anonymous sperm donations are forbidden in Germany and all personal details of the donors must be stored in the sperm donor register. This means that children who have been born with the help of a sperm donor also have the opportunity to obtain information about their biological father.
The legal situation for singles who wish to have children
While society’s idea of a family no longer adheres exclusively to the classic mother-father-child constellation, sperm donation for singles remains a legal grey area. What is the reason for this?
The guideline published by the German Medical Association prohibits accepting single patients. Even though the recommendation is not legally binding, many Fertility Centres adhere to it and refuse to help single women who wish to have children.
However, German reproductive medicine is governed by the 1990 Embryo Protection Act, which does not explicitly mention sperm donation. In general, it is allowed for heterosexual and lesbian couples as well as for singles who wish to have children, as long as there is someone who acknowledges paternity for the child.
However, due to the insufficient legal regulation, in the event of a dispute, the treating doctor can be named as the legal father for the child, and be obliged to make maintenance payments.
After the legal decision on the donor register in 2017, this situation has eased, but many doctors are still afraid of being recognised as the person who caused the pregnancy and therefore refuse to treat singles who wish to have children.
Singles with the desire to have children and their options
Nevertheless, there are some options for singles who wish to have children. In Germany, for example, there are some sperm banks and fertility clinics that — despite the patchy legal situation — also treat singles or lesbian couples who wish to have children. In addition, they offer counselling services on the costs, donor selection, as well as the challenges that a single woman with a child wish should be prepared for.
In several European countries, sperm donation for single women is also part of everyday reproductive medicine. Countries such as Spain and Denmark are known for their liberal legislation and are popular destinations for singles who wish to have children.
Social freezing: success rates
What is the ideal age to freeze my eggs? This is an often asked question in the context of social freezing. A simplified answer would be that it is generally better to freeze at a younger age than at a later age. However, it is not quite that simple.
At Fertilly, we have made it our mission to accompany couples (homosexual and heterosexual) and singles on the way to fulfilling their child wish. In doing so, it is important to us to create transparency in the area of fertility services, to provide information and knowledge on the topics of pregnancy and fertility and to help you to find the most suitable Fertility Center. Through cooperation with first-class Fertility Centres and clinics in Europe, enquiries about Fertilly are given preferential treatment. This means that our patients avoid the usually long waiting times and get appointments more quickly.
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